I've Fallen For Someone---And He's Sane!!!

Two months after filing for divorce I started dating. Nothing serious, just a fun. In fact, that was my rule. No commitments, no promises, no strings. I was done with marriage and the very idea of trusting, let alone committing, to another guy seemed repulsively stupid. So I dated and flirted and danced with an assortment of people, all of whom I liked, none of whom I loved.

I did come close to getting into another relationship a few years ago. He was a tall, blond haired, blue eyed cop with a bigger than life personality. He was a staunch Republican and was sending his son to a notoriously dogmatic, conservative Christian school. In other words this guy and I had absolutely nothing in common. So we argued and debated and all that fun stuff. He argued against the evidence supporting evolution and global warming while I frantically thrust articles and books under his nose proving that he was wrong and I was right. Then there was his ex wife who HATED me and went out of her way to call her former hubby several times whenever she suspected he was out with me. And then there were his friends who wanted me to “save” him from falling back into the clutches of said ex-wife and so on. It was crazy which is pretty much what I’m used to when it comes to relationships. Of course it didn’t come to anything. While I was the one to walk away he was the one who first realized that our differences were big enough to prevent us from ever getting too serious.

Then, about a year after that I met Noah; a Jewish lawyer and Democrat to boot. He has an ex but she isn’t crazy and she isn’t a part of his life anymore. When it comes to politics and religion we agree on more than we disagree on and when we do disagree we can talk about it calmly without getting into a fight. And here’s the kicker---he isn’t crazy. In fact nothing about our relationship is crazy and that kind of freaked me out for a while. I was used to explosions and drama. I’ve always hooked up with the bad boys and the marginally functioning alcoholics. Not only is Noah not a big drinker but he’s also one of the good guys. He’s romantic without being over the top. He’s incredibly intelligent but doesn’t spend a lot of time trying to prove it to everyone. He manages to maintain emotional stability without the help of medication. This is honestly the first time I’ve ever dated anyone like that and for a while it scared me. I wasn’t used to sanity within a relationship and I kept trying to convince myself that I needed the explosions and the drama. I spent the time between our dates convincing myself that he was wrong for me---I had to do this between dates because while I was with him I had too much fun to take my own arguments seriously.

Then, not so long ago, a man from my not-too-distant-past contacted me; a former military man who loved to party and brag about his exploits. Any one of my friends would peg him as “my type.” I talked to him and I enjoyed our conversation and he was clearly still interested…and then it hit me. I wasn’t interested in him. I was only interested in one guy, my nice, sane, liberal, intelligent Jewish lawyer. I’ve totally fallen for him. I’m in a relationship and I’m not tortured, miserable or in a constant state of anxiety. In fact, and this is a hard one for me to wrap my mind around, I’m actually very, very happy.

I guess miracles do happen.

Side note: a few of you have asked if I would do a live blog during the election. Check my myspace page throughout the day tomorrow for my election updates.

Kyra Davis
Bestselling Author of:
SEX, MURDER AND A DOUBLE LATTE,
PASSION, BETRAYAL AND KILLER HIGHLIGHTS,
OBSESSION, DECEIT AND REALLY DARK CHOCOLATE
and
SO MUCH FOR MY HAPPY ENDING

How Can You Not Love This?

So a few hours ago I was reading an online New York Times article about the whole polygamist sect raid in Texas when I noted that in the far right corner of the NYT webpage was a link to an article titled "Possible Nazi Theme Of Grand Prix's Boss's Orgy Draws Calls To Quit."

Well really, how can you not click that link?

So here's the deal: A tabloid got it's hands on a web video featuring Max Mosley, the overseer of the grand prix, being naughty. And when I say naughty what I mean is he was engaged in a "sadomasochistic orgy with five prostitutes in a London sex dungeon."

Now tell me that doesn't sound like something Dena would tell Sophie about in one of my novels. Furthermore, Dena wouldn't have seen a problem with any of it and apparently neither do the Europeans. What they do have a problem with is that, while in the midst of his sexual role playing, Mosley adopted a German accent, saying things like "She needs more of ze punishment!" See, this wasn't just a normal, every day depraved sadomasochistic orgy. Oh no, this was, according to The News Of The World, "a depraved Nazi sadomasochistic orgy."

I swear to God, I'm not making this up and to that end I don't want to ever read another Amazon review claiming that any of my fictional scenarios are too bizarre or silly to be real. This story should put that argument to rest.

Anyhoo, there are now lots of people who want him to resign: high ranking members of the Federation Internationale de L'Automobile, various Jewish groups and our own beloved AAA. Mosely has admitted to everything but the Nazi part which was a fairly safe way for him to go since the Nazi part is the only thing that's going to get him fired.

As a general rule, I'm not a big fan of Nazis but in this case I must admit that Mosley's antics put a smile on my face. I just wish I had thought of it first. I really would have loved to incorporate that scene into a book.

Kyra Davis
Bestselling Author of:
SEX, MURDER AND A DOUBLE LATTE,
PASSION, BETRAYAL AND KILLER HIGHLIGHTS,
OBSESSION, DECEIT AND REALLY DARK CHOCOLATE
and
SO MUCH FOR MY HAPPY ENDING

In The End There's Blackness...& A Hole

For those of you who don't watch The Daily Show, Jon Stewart recently interviewed neuroscientist, Simon LeVay about his book When Science Goes Wrong. Basically it's an account of all the horrible and sometimes fatal misdirections science has taken at various times through history. Stewart asked him if he predicted that there would be other major mistakes in the future, perhaps with say, the Super-Collider, a particle accelerator being built in Switzerland which may be able to help us identify the particles that led to the big bang.

LeVay very calmly explained that some scientists have pointed out that there is a possibility that this machine will create a black hole which will swallow up the earth and that there have actually been some complaints about that. But not to worry, the people making the machine say that is "not very likely." Yes, there's a remote chance but we really do want to know about those particles so they're going to risk it.

What interests me about this story is how incredibly unalarming it is. Maybe it's just me, but I simply can't get very worked up about this. As an environmentalist I often worry about our dwindling resources and the destruction of animal habitats. Also, if someone told me that we were on the brink of nuclear war I'd be completely freaked out. I occasionally fret about the possibility of being killed in a car crash or mugged on the street. But a giant black hole that could end absolutely everything? Apparently I'm okay with that.

I'm sure part of the reason for this is that it's too outlandish of an idea for me to really buy into. I know that we're a pretty technologically advanced and at times, brutal species but creating a black hole capable of swallowing up planets? I just don't think we have it in us. But my ambivalence requires further explanation. For one, if we did create a black hole I think the end would come pretty quickly. Maybe we'd have time to register that the earth was shaking a bit under our feet and then poof, we're all gone. No pain, no anxiety, just a shake-shake-we're done. And since we'd all be going together there's no need to worry about the loved ones people normally leave behind when they die. If you think about it, it's not a bad way to go. Plus there's a certain caché, about being gobbled up by the most powerful force in the universe. It's really sort of cool.

So while I absolutely do not believe that we are all going to die in August (when they plan to try out the machine) if we do, I want you all to know that I've really enjoyed our various conversations and, if given the opportunity, I promise to write another Sophie book in the afterlife. After all, we'll all be there together.

Kyra Davis
Bestselling Author of:
SEX, MURDER AND A DOUBLE LATTE,
PASSION, BETRAYAL AND KILLER HIGHLIGHTS,
OBSESSION, DECEIT AND REALLY DARK CHOCOLATE
and
SO MUCH FOR MY HAPPY ENDING